Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Tales from a wise friend: Networking is like poop

Around the table over a game of Defenders of the Realm around last Christmas time:

"Networking is so hard!"

"I agree, sometimes it feels so disingenuous and forced. Plus what do I bring to the table when I network!?"

"Well networking is like poop."

"What?!" "Huh?!"

"Yes, exactly: networking is like poop!"

"What do you mean by that?"

"Well as you know I really like poop related things that are cute (see picture below). As I talk to other people it somehow comes out that I like poop things, just because it's something I find interesting! So now I have amassed a collection of poop paraphernalia: stickers, bookmarks, children's book, dolls, and such, or people tell me where they have seen such things or they takes pictures of poop things for me! So networking is like poop because you have to tell people what you are interested in, what you want to do, and what goals you have. Just by telling people about my interest in poop I was able to get all these random poop items! So networking is similar: you have to tell people what you want, the information to be impactful, interesting, or at least memorable, so that when people come across something you're interested in the first thing they think about is you. So in my case: poop!"

"Ah I see! So networking is like poop!"

Nod nod. "How wise!"

Cute poop rubbers X3
Yes even in japan they make these little rubbers look cute!! XDD

Monday, March 10, 2014

The joy of human spirit

It's fascinating to walk past this statue every time I go to the library. On one hand it's pretty eerie and haunting to see the mold of a person struggling to be free of the stone elements. On the other hand I like to think that it celebrates the human spirit through struggles and work.

Sunday, March 9, 2014

You know you're old when...

Someone declares: "Tinder is for old people!"

I think to myself: wait....but I'm using Tinder...

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Tart and delicious

As a frozen yogurt lover I am sad to say that the Yogorino closest to me is closed. How I will miss the thick, creamy, tartness that just melts on my tongue! Purely simple with no need for fruity garnishes. You will be missed!

The walls of the Yogorino was also fantastic with these stiff white peaks:

Friday, March 7, 2014

Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.

- Oprah Winfrey; media proprietor, talk show host, actress, producer, and philanthropist

Thursday, March 6, 2014

Are we becoming the men we want to date/marry?

On yet another snowy rainy sleeting "work from home" day in Philadelphia, I posed that question to a friend over lunch. I look at her: a smart, financially independent, career driven, funny, gorgeous, healthy, educated, and overall a pretty cool person. She thinks for a bit.

"Well what do men have to offer?"
"Support, companionship, friendship, someone to reach tall places and open stuck jars, affection, love, and sex."
"I can get most of those things from my female friends, except for sex."
"Does that mean we only need men for sex?!"
"You tell me!"

All cheekiness aside, I look around and see amazing female friends who have these qualities that are deemed "masculine": outspoken, charismatic, career-oriented, ambitious, decision makers, independent, and essentially non-shirking violets. All these traits that if it were in men it would be deemed "good" but when the traits reside within women the positives becomes ambiguities, if not negatives. Why is that?

To understand the current situation, let's take a look at where we came from. The right to vote, equal employment opportunity, and equal pay is a relatively new achievement for women considering the long history where women didn't even hold jobs, step outside of the house without a chaperone (well at least the well to do ladies can't), can own property, or were even considered their own entity beyond their family, father, and husband. When I first watched Mad Men I was absolutely livid: what a horribly chauvinist and paternalistic society! Sure Don Draper is this suave, handsome, charismatic, smart, and cool guy but he also cheated on everyone he's been with romantically, objectified women, and had a huge ego. A representation of his time that makes me glad that I wasn't born in the 1940s! How far we have come from that time period.

With the introduction of women to the workplace comes with challenges to both men and women: men now have to deal with women outside the home in a professional setting and women now have to learn a new way to compete in an unlevel playing field. Issues still persists in modern day setting where the ratio of women to men in college, higher education, and entry level jobs are 50/50 yet the ratio drops precipitously as one goes higher up the corporate ladder and of the Fortune 500 companies only 5% have women CEO's. The reasons for these trends are vast, multi-factorial, and complex but clearly the cards are somewhat stacked against women in the business world so that in order to succeed one has to be stellar or very well connected to garner the roles, respect, and responsibilities traditionally accorded to men.

So back to the two women at a diner on a snowy day in Philly. Here we are living our lives without aid from family, government, or men; developed human beings with our own thoughts, aspirations, and many traits that would make any man just awesome. So yes: to a degree we have attained and embodied the men that we would like to be but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. It just means it takes certain personalities and characters to appreciate what we have to offer and conversely we may appreciate different traits in men that others may overlook.

Problem as solved as it can be on this day. Now onto tackling that giant piece of chocolate cake to round out the meal

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Fortune cookie art

Don't worry, I have no ran out of fortune cookie wisdom yet!

In the spirit of art, this is the fortune cookie art exhibit at Philadelphia's Asian Arts Initiative that is creating and empowering the Asian community via art.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Hi tea time

Tea time in a charming jazzy Japanese setting that's restaurant and tea parlor by day and sake bar at night. Hi-Collar in East Village in NYC.

The tea cup sets were so elegant and unique! 

Darjeeling on the left and English Breakfast tea on right. 

Monday, March 3, 2014

Tetris Jenga

As if normal Jenga wasn't devious enough, there is Tetris Jenga!

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Positivity attracts positivity

As I continue down this crazy journey call online dating, without much luck albeit currently, it's amazing to see the profile of people: how they can be so bitter, angry, negative, and not too pleasant to know digitally nevertheless in real life. If they showcase themselves as such a people then what sort of people were they hoping to attract?

Also what is this "game" that they speak of? I don't quite understand when did finding love/boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other/lover ever was a game. In talking to some guy friends they talk about the uncertainty of calling or texting 3 days after a date or not, which all sounds rather silly because there are no "rules" or "games." If you like someone then you contact them as soon as you want to and if the other person does not respond to you then good riddance because they didn't like you enough, so why would you want to continue to get hurt by someone who doesn't like you enough?

We want to be in and think we deserved to be love, so find it in the places that are possible instead of pining for the impossible! Positivity attracts positivity so shine on!

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Philly airport art

Taken at the B terminal of the Philadelphia airport: a mosaic of cherry blossoms. The dream of spring continues.